As I've spent a huge chunk of time this week preparing for Chris and Hilary's wedding. I feel like I've memorized the wedding section in the Book of Common Prayer and I've been practicing for the Kentucky heat of the outdoor wedding by working in my home office. It's 11:40 and sweat is still pouring down my neck.
I've been thinking a lot about the "If any person can show just cause why they cannot lawfully be joined together, speak now or forever hold your peace" part of the service. At first, it caught my attention because I didn't know how to transition out of that. I mean, in the movies someone always does something dramatic at that point (or if the wedding crasher doesn't make it in time, the scene always cuts to what they're doing instead...stuck in traffic, crashing the wrong wedding, tossing a donkey to look through the stained glass window).
But once I figured out how to transition out of this, I started wondering if I was living it. What I mean is this: I've seen some folks make questionable marriage decisions. Maybe they aren't a good match or maybe one of the partners just gets on my nerves and so I question the marriage. Does that push back against the "forever hold your peace" idea?
I mean, where did that come from? Is that just in there to protect people who are already married to someone else from tricking their way into polygamy or to give true loves a final chance to fight for destiny or to keep sibling separated at birth from getting married (hey...the wedding is in Kentucky, right?)? Maybe it's also to kick me in the pants, to make me shift from questioning to helping. Maybe what's done is done and my questioning makes it harder for my friends to keep their vows.
What would happen if we all decided to "forever hold [our collective] peace" and to serve these question-provoking couples? Man, I can only imagine.