Argument Ain't Dead

We inhabit a culture filled with argument.  It's in the air, in the water.

Avoiding argument altogether ... not an option.  Not really.

But what if we argued differently?

Imagine someone arguing with you, but showing you respect.  Imagine someone arguing with you, but listening.  Imagine someone arguing with you ... really arguing ... but smiling and laughing, not desperate to convince you.

My friend, former staffworker and former boss - the great Joe Ho - once compared college students arguing to little boys wrestling.  And sometimes, getting slammed has nothing to do with strength or skill or rightness but with the natural rhythm of the wrestling match. 

Use argument to show respect, to build trust, to play.  Use it for what works.

What would change if you argued, but argued differently?

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