I'm still trying to figure out what it means to be married.
Amy and I have been married since 2006. We exchanged vows and rings. We signed papers. We weren't sure exactly what we were doing, what we were getting ourselves into, what it truly meant to be married.
I'm a selfish man. I sent my newly-married bride alone to Wal-Mart in the middle of the night to get a new air mattress when ours popped. I spent lots of our money on books. I rolled over in the middle of the night in hopes that she would get up to take care of the crying baby. (I still do that sometimes)
We are married. Connected. Married together. Married to each other. One. But I'm still selfish. I still act as if I can look after my own interests first. I still find myself behaving as if I'm on my own.
How can I defend the institution of marriage? I can't even defend my own marriage.
I'm grateful to be married to Amy. I love her.
And I would defend her. I would argue and fight for her. Don't call her names and don't push her around. I will come to her defense. Because I love her.
I love Amy. I don't love Marriage. Marriage is just an institution.
I know with perfect clarity that I've been called by God to love Amy. And loving Amy is one of many loves that God is drawing out of me. He calls out to me in a strong, loud voice:
"Love your neighbor"
"Love your enemies"
"Love your wife"
And sometimes love entails defense.
Sometimes I'm called to defend my neighbor.
Sometimes I'm called to defend my enemies.
Sometimes I'm called to defend my wife.
Sometimes I'm called to defend God ...
... though usually He's defending me from my foolishness.
We Christians defend people.
We're at our best when we're defending people. Or, at least, we're at our best when we're loving people. People, not institutions.
Why do we feel the need to defend institutions? Am I missing something?